mark’s list of warning signs:

falling in love too quickly    use of the word love in sentences of three words or less within single digit time intervals     dissimilar definitions of the word love    lack of long term or childhood friends    evidence of leveraging relationships with others    recently separated, divorcing, or divorced     diagnosed mental disorder    permanently on medication    general discontent     overt insecurity    any dependency resulting in lack of a need for faith, hope, trust    personality swings    mood swings that cause fundamental shifts    never having been in therapy or always having been in therapy    any dishonesty whatsoever     any affair whatsoever    whining     evidence of latent demands    inhibited communication or lack thereof    lack of discretion    disparate lifestyle     disrespect and entitlement    decision by committee    housekeeping tendencies     personal appearance and style    low tolerance and breaking thresholds    cruelty to butter     lack of autonomy    looking to fill one specific place    no willingness to include and be included with friends    departure from the norm    lesbian tendencies or relationships or bisexuality    feelings of or statements about insatiability    abnormally low self-esteem    evidence of an unexamined life    failure to thrive     continual disrepair    statements like "I want to be in a relationship where…" or "you need a girlfriend who…"     insolvency as a lifestyle    no apparent aspirations     the need to place blame    and the biggest warning sign of all: any feeling at all that I can throw away this list of warning signs because it’s safe

more problems / warning signs…

the need to reach outside the relationship    taking me for granted     allowing me to suffer in vain    inconsequential events with global effects    hidden agendas    unwillingness to share in life skills    any statement to the effect of "I don’t recognize this behavior in myself."

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